High school in michigan, is like being in prison.
What gives the school the right to give my child homework?
Yes, that is absolutely correct. Robert, we all very sensitive beings, living in a very sensitive body, and that body while quite resilient , is nevertheless very easy to damage. Even ugly words undermine its integrity. Hurt the body a little and it activates defense mechanisms to protect itself.
Hurt it enough and the defense mechanisms are undermined, and real damage occurs. The biggest obstacle to healing is often simply trust. Take your typical abused child, who are they ever going to trust? I can understand why. Any authentic healer knows, the first thing you have to do is establish trust. It is called mean and it is about abuse. Also, Dr. Sosteric, I am located in the New York metro area.
I really like your way of thinking. He has in fact started having some behavioral issues at school. I suspect this is because his teacher is always on his case, makes note of his behavior in front of his classmates and so on and so forth. I have yet to see one example of positive reinforcement no smiley faces on his homework, no encouraging notes home, nothing.
I do get the sense that he feels singled out. He is a bit chatty and over-excited some of his peers have even called him weird. He is a highly intelligent child, but as is often the case with this population, also highly sensitive. Please, if you yourself are in the NY area and are in practice please let me know. Otherwise I would be grateful if you could make a trusted recommendation for a colleague or two in the area that you think might be able to help. Are any of you teachers? Have any of you gone through teacher training in this country?
But then you get the few pupils who have become loud, aggressive, arrogant, disruptive, unpleasant and they can selfishly dominate the room by loud noise, swearing, physical violence so that no-one else pupil or teacher can do anything. I read through the comments — we should do something………….
Correct Its easy to ridicule teachers who are trying to educate students. All my time as a cover teacher is spent with five or six students who are probably wonderful people but who wont allow others the decency of a point of view in the classroom.
Every student has the same rights in the classroom and a teacher has a right to facilitate learning. Some students just need a ten mile run in the morning because they are made up that way I feel. They have loads of energy. Some students get no attention at home because their parents have no time so they use class to socialise and catch up with the gaps in their life.
Some students are lazy and have never engaged from their early years because of their early home life. I am a teacher and find Dr. You, Dr. There are things in school called rules that are designed to keep students safe. Students are made aware of these rules and if they choose not to follow the rules, there are consequences.
Many students come to school fully aware of their ability to crap all over the teacher, knowing full well the teacher can do nothing in retaliation. Spare me. Well, now she will work to make sure it does not appear on the board again. Get off your moral high horse and wake up. Not every child who has negative experiences in school ends up in jail. Tanya, I think you need to reevaluate your approach to discussion. If this is your approach to disagreements in your classroom I can only say I pity the children in your charge. I also think you need to reevaluate your position on public shaming.
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When I was doing my undergraduate work, university professors were not allowed to post marks and names. That is, university teachers would be sanctioned for putting up a public list of the names of their students, and associating those names with marks. It is the same now. When it comes to adults, teachers are not allowed to publically shame. Children cannot. Children are entirely dependent on the good will and beneficence of the adults in their life. Children are far less capable of defending themselves against such an obvious emotional assault than are adults.
In fact, quite the contrary.
Because they are such easy targets, agents of socialization teachers, parents, etc. Anything else is just a case of strong adults harming defenseless children.
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Recent research is demonstrating quite conclusively that even mild forms of emotional abuse can have serious long term negative impact. I would only note that the research is fast piling up. My own daughter had an experience with an incompetent speech pathologist when she was four and it totally undermined her self-esteem. The entire course of her K12 career was damaged by a single instance of not even public shaming. Anyway, contrary to your statement that I am the problem with kids today, I actually think teachers like you are the problem.
You arrogantly dismiss parental concern. Not only that, but you lack even a basic psychological awareness and you are empthy of empathy for the children in your charge. You are just the kind of emotional bully that so many parents write here about. You ridicule me, ridicule my daugther, and display a total lack of concern for the children you hurt.
Given your position of authority over young children I assume you teach elementary , this lack of awareness is unacceptable and frankly offensive. You have no right to assault children with your antiquated and violent ways. You have a responsibility to the children under your care, the parents, your fellow teachers, and society as a whole. It is not for you to spew unsubstantiated vituperous ad hominem attacks or unsubstantiated folk wisdom about what kids really need, it is for you to listen and learn. It is in your best interests.
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Word to the wise. Nowadays teacher go to jail for sexually assaulting children. It is unfortunate, but whenever a teacher like you posts a diatribe like you did, I pray that the day comes soon. Every teacher I know went into the field of education with one goal: help children grow. Teachers are certainly not in it for the money and appreciation because both are in short supply.
I think it also needs to be noted that teaching children is one of the most demanding and under appreciated jobs in our country. Teachers are expected to be the parent, nurse, counselor, time keeper, and a multitude of other roles, each day. Each year we get a fresh batch of new children and spend our time understanding their tics, analyzing their progress socially and academically , and trying to cultivate strong relationships with them and their families.
This is a different day and age than when most of us were in school. I can remember being in elementary school and there being one or two students who habitually got into trouble for speaking out of turn or being mean to other students. The classroom today is a whole new world. Students have been exposed to media and conversation that we never heard as children. They are learning things at a younger age and getting comfortable speaking inappropriate things to adults and kids alike and also being disrespectful to anybody they choose.
They think that this is their right. Parents struggle to realize sometimes that we could absolutely handle it… if it was just that one child. We have classes of up to 30 children sometimes and often a quarter of those children have attention deficit disorder, another quarter are receiving special services from special education requiring the teacher to memorize steps to handle everything the child says or does , and a third quarter of those students have emotional issues that did not root from their treatment in the school. I spent the year trying to draw this child out of her shell. It was exhausting, but I was glad to do it because at my core as an educator I want to help children.
My partner teacher, while not quite as sympathetic, was certainly never abusive towards this child.
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She never raised her voice at her, never called attention to her in a negative way, and was often seen speaking positively to her. She claimed that my partner teacher was being disrespectful to her daughter and always bragged about how she had put a recorder on her daughter and had evidence. Of course, she could never furnish this evidence. She ultimately pulled her out of school the child was crying when she did this and threatened to home school. The principal finally moved her to a new class.
I feel as though the world is now full of parents who believe that educators are incompetent. They have no respect for teachers, therefore leading their children to believe the same. Most adults would not take the kind of emotional destruction that teachers are subjected to without fighting back.
You say that you are not painting all teachers with the same brush, yet you fail to mention the impact a great teacher has on a child. Where would any of us be without educators? I would say that this also makes you an emotional bully. Shame on you for praying that the day comes soon where teachers like her will be imprisoned!